Starting Again with Help from the CWCC Shelter
My first husband, with whom I had two children, died during the war. I lived as a widow for three years before marrying again in 1996, and having three more children. I am now 47 years old.
After two years my second husband started to make problems and conflict with my two eldest children – he accused them of bringing in no income to support the family because they were attending school. He complained that their presence at home prevented him from having sex with me, and he abused them by kicking them and; pulling their hair, and telling them to leave the house. Unable to endure it, they stopped their studies and found work at a restaurant, moving out of our home to live alone, supporting themselves.
My husband never stopped abusing me and his own three children, drinking instead of working, and raping me every day on threat of death if I refused or blamed him for his actions. I was completely terrified of him.
In October 2009 I decided to come to CWCC with my three younger children and seek a divorce. My daughter and I studied sewing at the safe shelter, and also conflict resolution, and we are still staying there. However my husband did not want a divorce; and when in court he was so ashamed and could not look at me. He confessed in the court to his actions.
Giving more time for change, we have started the mediation process within the Municipal Court. My daughter and I have returned from the shelter and are running a small sewing shop set up with a loan from CWCC, which we are paying back. We are living in a much more peaceful situation now, and are better off through our sewing business.